289. Lessons Learned from 22 Years of Marriage and 20 Years of Parenting
January was quite an adventure! In this episode, Jesse and I are back to reflect on the wild start to our year. From celebrating 22 years of marriage and 20 years of parenting to taking on unexpected challenges (including a basketball injury that led to a surprise concussion diagnosis and a late-night flood in our home), we have really had no shortage of adventures!
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Listen in as we share what we learned from Silas’s recovery process, how Tennessee’s concussion laws helped us with his school accommodations, and why this experience gave us a fresh perspective on parenting, patience, and gratitude.
We also touch upon an unexpected upside to our household flood (my decluttering goal for the year got a big boost!) and discuss a book that has deeply challenged me to rethink family rhythms and intentional parenting. Jesse also shares what he has been reading lately, from Civil War history to a fascinating biography about former president Teddy Roosevelt.
Since big milestones naturally bring about reflection, Jesse and I also take a moment to look back on our marriage and how we have grown over the years – what we have learned about communication, grace, and the little things that keep a relationship strong, even when there is chaos! Whether you are here to hear us share some life updates, book recommendations, or just a little encouragement, we hope that you will take away something meaningful in today’s episode!
In This Episode
[0:35] – We are reflecting on 22 years of marriage and 20 years of parenting!
[2:29] – Silas had a basketball accident, requiring five stitches and later revealing concussion symptoms.
[4:10] – Hear how Silas struggled with a math quiz, leading to a concussion diagnosis and recovery restrictions.
[5:39] – Silas struggled with boredom during recovery but was ultimately cleared for school with accommodations.
[8:33] – Hear how a bathroom flood accelerated my decluttering goal.
[12:57] – Jesse has enjoyed reading historical fiction, especially books on Civil War battles.
[14:52] – I am enjoying the book Habits of the Household and find it challenging and convicting in family rhythms.
[17:00] – I appreciate the book’s flexible approach to family rhythms, focusing on intentionality and grace.
[18:67] – We segue into parenthood, with Jesse expressing that parenting lessons must be learned through experience, not advice or hindsight.
[19:35] – David’s progress has helped me change perspective, celebrating messes as signs of growth and learning.
[22:23] – I value the importance of perspective, teaching her kids that accidents aren’t worth stressing over.
[24:00] – Micah offered a sincere apology about something which reminded me of life’s gifts of grace and love.
[27:32] – Jesse talks about struggling with apologizing but sees humility as important for personal growth.
[28:08] – I highlight owning one’s actions in marriage and communication, avoiding silent treatment, and always learning!
Links & Resources
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Books
The Killer Angels: The Classic Novel of the Civil War (Civil War Trilogy) by Michael Shaara
Gods and Generals: A Novel of the Civil War (Civil War Trilogy) by Jeff Shaara
Films
Gettysburg
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