103. Forgiving What You Can’t Forget (with Lysa TerKeurst)

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Forgiveness was one of the last topics Lysa TerKeurst ever wanted to write a book on. But in this episode, she shares how her view of forgiveness changed as she walked through the devastating and earth shattering experience of her husband’s betrayal, unfaithfulness, and addiction.

The pain was so terrible it would literally stop her in her tracks no matter where she was, unable to move — including in the middle of Target or in the produce section of the grocery store.

In this episode, Lysa shares very vulnerably what it was like to walk through that heartbreaking experience, how it changed her view and understanding of forgiveness, and the steps she took to find healing.

What do you do if the pain feels too intense to forgive? Is it possible to forgive even if the other person won’t change? And what should you do if you are in a situation where you keep getting hurt over and over again?

Lysa shares the answers to those questions and many more in this can’t-miss episode. I believe this is one of the most important episodes I’ve ever recorded; please don’t miss it. And if your heart is especially hurting right now, I think her words will be a balm to your wounded soul.

Also, please go get a copy of Forgiving What You Can’t Forget.

In This Episode: 

[01:30] Lysa shares a peek into her family and ministry.

[03:43] Why Lysa didn’t want to write this book.

[07:18] What caused her extreme sadness, anger, and feelings of resistance to forgiveness.

[09:24] Learn what her therapist did to help her reach a point that she could forgive.

[13:01] Why forgiveness is a gift that you can receive for yourself.

[14:56] What happens when you stuff pain down and refuse to acknowledge it.

[17:22] Lysa’s first memories of forgiveness.

[20:00] What did she do after acknowledging her pain?

[26:13] Lysa’s advice for the woman who is living in their pain.

[29:29] It doesn’t make you an unforgiving person to draw boundaries.

[30:43] Where she is now after writing this book.

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